A little insight into…Joné…
This past week has been a blessed one and the application and networking process has become much more natural — probably because I know it is only temporary. I know all I need is ONE open door and I am ready to virtually walk through it!
I didn’t grow up having a lot of money or things that kids my age had. I didn't have a group of close friends growing up. It seemed everyone my age had endless access to money, cars, and the latest trends in shoes & clothes. I felt like I was less in comparison to everyone else. It took me becoming a young adult with a child of my own to realize the things I didn’t have as a child and teenager were insignificant — the things my parents did give me were irreplaceable: unconditional love, continual support, and important life lessons I wouldn’t know I needed until later on. It was then I realized that all those years growing up ( and even today) I was actually richer than any of them because of my parents' constant love.
I had my sons young and put off going to college, had a multitude of jobs, and learned a lot of good and bad things about this world. I wasn’t in a healthy relationship and once again, I felt sorry for me about what I didn’t have. My sons and I were able to live all over (Hawaii, Texas, Louisiana, Germany), travel Europe, and see things most only see on television or read in books and I was lucky enough to have met the best friends anyone could ever ask for.
Eventually, my marriage crumbled and my sons and I moved back to the U.S. to start yet another new chapter. I had picked up and started over so many times I was completely drained and didn’t think I could do it again, but I still had the love of my family to hold me up so I pushed on. I’ve always done what was needed to make things happen and sacrifice myself for my sons needs (not wants). I was walking the same path my parents laid for me and it felt good. Time passed and eventually, I remarried and once again picked up and started over.
Today all my sons are kind, compassionate, and (mostly) responsible adults spread all about (New York, Oklahoma, California). I miss them and wish they were all here with me, but I just focus on what my mother told me when I had my first child — mothers raise their children with roots and wings. We are to raise our children with morals, manners, and ethics in hopes that they maintain them and spread them to others they encounter in this crazy world.
But getting back to me — I began a scary and exciting journey last November to begin an immersive UX designer course through Flatiron in New York not having any formal experience with design at all. In February 2020, I quit my job and flew to New York to stay with my oldest son and complete the second portion of my course which was to include the on-campus portion. Then the pandemic began and we remained on the remote learning path. It was much more intense especially being remote, but I remained positive, I learned and I grew and remembered that anything (positive or negative) that has happened to me through my life has had a purpose whether it revealed itself then or later. So now I work towards the unknown purpose and wait for the reveal.
Tomorrow will begin my fifth week into the quest for my new remote home to learn from and connect with others. I am excited to know I will receive that one email or call to offer me what is destined to be mine. In the meantime, I will continue to make strong connections while searching and applying.
You have to be the change you want to see and we must ALWAYS put out into the world what we want to get back — for me that is love, kindness, empathy, and positivity.
How will one ever know who is out there is they don’t look?